The Myth of Blissful Work

How fortunate I am to run my own business (it’s been over 20 years now), and spend much of my time working with clients who are doing truly good things, and living and working with passion. I love it. But, it’s also challenging. It’s very challenging. There are ups and downs, and most days are unpredictable as an entrepreneur. I don’t cry like I did in the early years from overwhelm or financial stresses, and I have much more perspective when there is an issue, with regard to dealing with people or situations, but I would say there is as much hard work as there is glory in any given day. This is not a complaint, it is just reality, and if you run your own business – already a success or just on your way – you likely relate.

After hearing so many “experts” go on about finding your passion, making huge incomes doing what you love best, the liberation that comes with being your own boss, and making money while basically on holiday anywhere in the world, I just wanted to share a few of my thoughts from my experience running my own business and from working with clients over the years.

We are living in an age of finding pleasure and enjoyment in our work, and while it’s a wonderful concept, the pressure (or the misconception) that you need to be happy every moment of every day is leaving many feeling unfulfilled – like we’ve missed our mark, or like we’re not cut out for the work we want to do, or even that the struggle, which is essential to success, isn’t worth it since it’s not fun. I see this in almost every consult, and I find myself having to remind everyone (including myself) to focus on themselves, not the shiny-happy-million-dollar smiles and promises online from those we might admire in work or life. Scrolling through social media feeds of glowing, shiny, enthusiastic people showing off their successful lives are manufactured highlights. Personally, I have never proudly posted my ranting or disappointments online, but maybe I ought to start doing that – it might be much more helpful than lists of tips and encouraging words (like I’ve so typically included below).

To be truly happy in your work (yes, even the work you have a passion for) there are a few things we all need to keep top of mind.

1. Whether you hold a job, or you are an entrepreneur, or just wake up to live a day happily, remember, that does not mean everything will be blissful.  When we break anything down into its micro tasks, there will be a lot we don’t want to deal with. Step back and take in the big picture. Are you doing the work that makes you happy?  In the face of unrelenting work and endless to-do lists, pause and strategically and mindfully consider what you need to do, and want to do, and are willing to do in order to enjoy the work and reach and surpass your goals. Be kind to yourself. 

2. If we aren’t invested, or inspired to invest in our work constantly, we won’t get as much out of it as we can. Invest. Always. Constantly. When we deposit the right stuff, and embrace and enjoy the process, we have the benefit of appreciating the returns, and ultimately feeling fulfilled.

3. Everything comes with responsibility and hard work, and the outcome will not always be #epic. That’s great. How many times do we need to be reminded that failure leads to learning and success? Without a struggle there’s no triumph. Living our passion will include things we don’t like doing, things we’re not good at, things that scare us, things that bore us, things that make us roll our eyes, things that are challenging and cause us to struggle and fight, and beyond – but these are the things that help us grow when we are willing to embrace it all, while focusing on our own big picture.

4. We cannot ignore what’s good for our growth just because it’s dressed up as un-enjoyable task. While there are things I do for my business that I do not want to do (hello invoicing!), there is so much to love about my work as a whole so those tasks just become part of what I need to do in order to succeed at my happy work. What are the obligations that you need to embrace in order to really own your day and work? Finding our bliss doesn’t mean escaping the world of obligation for sunshine and rainbows. Life and work come with obligation. Our callings include obligation. Our dream jobs include obligation. Blissful work arrives when we learn to embrace obligation. Obligation should propel us to do our best work and find success. Remember, we live in the real world, and not on a magical unicorn colony (no matter what people paint their lives and work as on social media or in conversation).

5. Enjoying your work means being grateful too. There’s nothing that will drive a day better than giving, being mindful and sharing our gratitude.

If you’re looking for easy, you’ll never find extraordinary. Doing great things requires jumping over hurdles, crawling through the mud, and rolling up your sleeves. Although it’s not easy, it’s definitely worth it, and you can be blissfully happy with your work – it’s all about perspective.

 

Unicorn image in header by oblyvian.